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Dear Stander, in the beginning of my stand I was looking for information on standing and Scriptural prayer to pray. I had no clue what to say – much less think. I was still hurting and confused. I needed Divine Love; Divine Help – Divine Encouragement. God gave me this. This prayer was taken from the Family & Marriage Ministries web site. This particular prayer is set up for the Standing Wife but can easily be converted for the Standing Husband. This prayer has been changed somewhat from the original for content flow and ease in reading. Of course it can be used to jump-start your own prayer time and adapted to your personal needs. It’s not a formula or potion but it is the Word of God prayed over your Beloved Spouse. In some instances, the prayer speaks as though your Mate is coming home. Believe that because it’s true – no matter how they are living, behaving, speaking or acting toward you. This prayer is Biblical and includes the Scriptures that it is based upon.
Bookmark it or copy and paste to a Word document for printing to keep in your Bible when you pray for your Prodigal Spouse.
Remember that God’s ears are attentive to the cries of His people and His Word says that the fervent prayers of the righteous availeth much. This means that you check your feelings and emotions at the door and see your Spouse through the eyes of God. See them as restored and forgiven because your Spouse is NOT your enemy – for we do not war against what we see but against what we cannot see. (See Ephesians 6 on wearing the armor of God so that you can Stand Strong in the day of evil.)
God bless you richly with the salvation of your One-Flesh Covenant Mate and the restoration of your Marriage. In Jesus’ Precious Name.
Effective prayers for Marriage restoration are not possible without first KNOWING that God wants us to Stand for the restoration of our Marriages. . . . Jesus clearly stated God’s plan for Marriage in Matthew 19:4-6, which says:
“And He answered and said to them, “Have you not read that He Who made them at the beginning ‘made them male and female,’ and said, “For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh?” So then, they are no longer two but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let not man separate.”
Then Malachi 2:13-16 (AMP) tells us just as clearly what the Lord thinks of divorce and separation because it says:
“And this you do with double guilt; you cover the altar of the Lord with tears [shed by your unoffending wives, divorced by you that you might take heathen wives], and with [your own] weeping and crying out because the Lord does not regard your offering any more or accept it with favor at your hand. Yet you ask, Why does He reject it? Because the Lord was witness [to the covenant made at your marriage] between you and the wife of your youth, against whom you have dealt treacherously and to whom you were faithless. Yet she *IS* your companion and the wife of your covenant [made by your marriage vows]. And did not God make [you and your wife] one [flesh]? Did not One make you and preserve your spirit alive? And why [did God make you two] one? Because He sought a godly offspring [from your union]. Therefore take heed to yourselves, and let no one deal treacherously and be faithless to the wife of his youth. For the Lord, the God of Israel, says: ‘I hate divorce and marital separation and him who covers his garment [his wife] with violence.’ Therefore keep a watch upon your spirit [that it may be controlled by My Spirit], that you deal not treacherously and faithlessly [with your marriage mate].”
It’s hard to see how anyone can read these passages of scripture and believe God would EVER take divorce and separation lightly – or want anything other than the restoration of our Marriages. Fortunately, once we understand that, we can confidently rely on God’s promise in Isaiah 55:10-11, which says:
“As the rain and the snow come down from heaven, and do not return to it without watering the earth and making it bud and flourish, so that it yields seed for the sower and bread for the eater, so is My Word that goes out from My mouth: It will not return to Me empty, but will accomplish what I desire and achieve the purpose for which I sent it.”
[God’s Word will not return to Him void.]
So use the following Marriage restoration prayer to speak life and death to the issues now affecting the restoration of your Marriage and release the awesome power of God as He works to restore your Marriage. Pray them daily, even several times a day; SPEAKING them out loud when possible.
“Devote yourselves to prayer, being watchful and thankful.” Colossians 4:2
Dear Heavenly Father, thank You for leading _____ and I to acknowledge our offense and feel our guilt. I thank You that we can seek Your face in our affliction and distress; and that we seek and require You earnestly. (Hosea 5:15) Thank You that the purpose for which You [allowed us to be torn] apart was to [show us our need for You] and return to You so You would heal us and bind up our wounds. I thank You that You are [even] now reviving and restoring us so we may live in your presence forever. (Hosea 6:1-2) Thank You for saving us from our distress when we call out in [times of] trouble. Thank You Father for sending Your Word and for healing our Marriage and rescuing us from destruction. Thank You for Your unfailing love and for Your wonderful deeds. (Psalm 107:19-21) And thank You Lord for your kindness, tolerance, and patience with us – and for the time You give us to turn from our sin. (Romans 2:4) And that we listen to You and will live in security with confident trust and without fear of harm or evil. (Proverbs 1:33)
I rejoice [in You] Lord and give You glory, praise and honor, that _____ and I love each other and will live together in harmony with sympathy, compassion and humility – and that we inherit blessings because we do not return evil for evil or insult for insult, but [we] respond with blessings instead. (1 Peter 3:8) [Thank You that we can] live by [Your] Spirit [that teaches us] not to gratify the desires of our sinful nature. (Galatians 5:16)
I thank you Lord that _____ lives with me in considerate understanding and respect for my role as his wife so his prayers will not be hindered. (1 Peter 3:7) I praise You that everything we have been through has not quenched his love for me [neither has it quenched my love for him] – and neither have floods or rivers washed it away. (Song of Solomon 8:7) [Thank You Father for honoring and answering my prayer of faith] that he does not feel harsh, bitter or resentful toward me because he loves me as his own body and as Christ loves the Church. (Ephesians 5:28) I thank You that our life is blessed with the rewards of fidelity and that _____ rejoices in me as the wife of his youth. (Proverbs 5:17-18) and that he longs to kiss me [with the kisses of his mouth] because my love delights him. (Song of Solomon 1:2) – and that I will always satisfy him; that he is forever captivated by my love. (Proverbs 5:19)
I praise Your holy Name because I belong to my lover and husband and his desire is for me. (Song of Solomon 7:10) [I thank You] that You bless me Lord by surrounding me with favor as with a shield and [that You] give me favor in _____’s eyes above every other woman on earth. (Psalm 5:12) I praise You Lord that I am his wife forever by the Marriage vows we made before You in righteousness, justice, unfailing love and compassion. (Hosea 2:19) [I thank You] that You have made us ONE in flesh and spirit – and that You are a Witness to our Marriage Covenant; [a Witness] that I am his companion and wife. I thank You that he will not break faith with me as his partner and the wife of his youth and that You will receive his offerings with pleasure. May he also guard himself and his spirit by not breaking faith with You because You hate divorce and You hate it when a man covers himself with such violence. (Malachi 2:13-16)
Thank You Lord, that _____ never forgets your teachings and that he keeps Your commands in his heart, and that Your Word is [alive and] working in our Marriage [and that] he will not be deceived by the persuasive words of the adulteress who would lead him astray – [neither will he] be seduced by her smooth talk. (Proverbs 7:21)
[I praise You for the] wisdom [that] enters his heart – and [that] Knowledge is pleasant to his soul. I thank You that discretion protects him, and that understanding guards him. (Proverbs 2:10-11) I thank You Lord, and give you all the honor and the glory and the praise that the gates of hell [cannot] prevail against us or our Marriage because we are Your Church. Jesus said the powers of hell could not conquer us. (Matthew 16:18)
[Heavenly Father, I thank You that] we will inherit a double portion in our Marriage as You repay and restore [the years that] the locusts [have eaten] – that they were sent among us to destroy. (Joel 2:25) And I praise You for giving us Your Words and Wisdom, and that our Marriage will overcome all adversaries because the enemy cannot contradict or resist them. (Luke 21:15) [I praise You] for giving us everlasting joy and a double portion instead of shame – and that instead of disgrace we will rejoice in our inheritance. (Isaiah 61:7)
I praise You Lord, that _____ will once again acknowledge [and confess] You [as his Lord and Savior] and that You won’t let anyone take him out of your hands – even if You take away his prosperity and expose him and put an end to all of his celebrations because he forgot You. I thank You Lord for alluring him back by leading him into the desert and speaking tenderly to him while he is there. I thank You for restoring what was lost and for transforming our valley of trouble into a gateway of hope. I give You all the praise and honor and glory because he will return to me and give himself to me as he once did and he will call me his wife and be happy with me as before. I thank You that he will forget all about [any potential] lovers and that their names will never again be spoken. (Hosea 2:8-17) I thank You Father for blocking his path with thorns and walling him in so that he cannot find his way. If he chases after [another] lover he will not catch her, and if he looks for [another], he will not find her. [Precious Father] I thank You that he [is coming] back to me because he knows his life is better with me. (Hosea 2:6-7)
Thank You Lord that Jesus redeemed me from the curse of the law by being made a curse for me. (Galatians 3:13) Therefore, I refuse the curse of the law in Deuteronomy 28:30 and remind You of the Blood of Jesus and the Word of my testimony is that my husband _____ will lay only with me. (Revelations 12:11) And I thank You that ____ and I are reconciled to You through Jesus by His blood shed on the cross – and that we are reconciled back to each other despite anything we’ve done to each other in the past. We are [forgiven and] presented holy before You without blemish and free from accusation through His death. (Colossians 1:20-22)
I give You [all] praise and honor that no weapon formed against our Marriage has prospered, and that You are [now] proving every voice raised against our reconciliation wrong. This is my heritage as Your child and it is Your vindication for me. (Isaiah 54:17) I praise You Lord, that your grace is sufficient for me as I stand for the restoration of my Marriage – that Your power is made perfect in my weakness and that the power of Christ is in me. (2 Corinthians 12:9) I am strong and courageous, not afraid or discouraged because your power is greater than the power of satan and all who do his work. (2 Chronicles 32:7)
I am so thankful that You are watching to make certain that Your Word is fulfilled and that You are performing it in our Marriage. (Jeremiah 1:12) I praise and thank You Lord for keeping forever the promise You have made concerning me and my home – and for doing as you promised so that Your Name will be great forever.
O Sovereign LORD, YOU are God! Your words are trustworthy and You have promised these good things to me. You have said that You will build a home for me and that it pleases You to bless my Marriage so it will continue before You forever. You have spoken and with Your blessing, my home and Marriage will be established with blessings forever. (II Samuel 7:25-29)
I Bless Your Precious Name Lord. Thank You. In Jesus’ Name. . .
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